Although I’ve been blogging for over a year now, I realised I’ve never written anything particularly personal, so I figured I’d write one today.
Over the past three years or so, I’ve grown a lot. No, I don’t mean physically (I’m still as short as ever) but emotionally.
Today I read through the mood diary I made for my therapy sessions in 2013. Admittedly, my issues started long before then, but this is the first time I’d really documented how I felt. Although it was difficult to read through a lot of it, I felt it was important to see how far I’ve come since then.
I wanted to share a couple of extracts from back in 2013, at the height of my problems with depression, anger and anxiety. So here goes…
‘Woke up feeling very angry and tense’…’got really angry with my mum because she knocked something over’…’strong urge to self harm’…’extremely miserable – cried for an hour’…’screamed at parents for eating too loud’.
Most of my diary consists of these types of thoughts and comments. There was barely a day whereby I was calm all day. Even ‘good’ days were those where I only shouted at someone a couple of times, never just a day where I was fairly contented. I was self harming virtually every day, screaming at people for no reason, having major anxiety attacks on a frequent basis and just generally hating life.
However, if I were to make a diary now, it would be very different. I have far more good days than bad, and can generally go an entire day without any incidents. Yes, I still have bad days, or days where my anxiety gets the better of me, but I have methods of dealing with these without cutting myself or taking it out on my family.
When I look back on the last two years, though, I can see that although it’s been a bumpy road, I have progressed enormously. I can now use my experiences to help others, know what job I want to do in the future – I’m hoping to become a clinical psychologist, so I can use my experiences to help others – have friends who I actively meet up with, enjoy spending time with my family again, and am generally happy to be me and to be alive.
It’s hard to believe less than a year ago, I felt so depressed that I tried to kill myself. That doesn’t even feel like the same person I am today. I’ve learnt a lot about myself over the last few years, and I think maybe this all happened so I can help others in the future, so they don’t have to go through the same things I did.
Who knows? Maybe in another year I’ll have grown even more. I’d like to one day be free from depression and anxiety, but I realise I have a long way to go yet. Either way, I’ll keep working towards that goal, one day at a time.